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5 Ways to be more confident

August 11, 2015

5 Ways to be more confident

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” Oscar Wilde

Somedays I feel more confident than others. I used to think as a teenager that when you were an adult you just magically became confident. I recall the women I used think oozed confidence, artists and musicians that were older and wiser than me, who were brave enough to share their work that they had poured themselves into. As I grew older I slowly realized that there apparently isn’t just one day where you wake up a confident grown ass woman. Instead, it was up to me to find that confidence within myself. It can feel like a lot of pressure sometimes as we get older to feel like you have it together and to put yourself out there to create a life you want. But knowing that your innate sense of self has always been with you is empowering. To be able to grow into whoever you want to become and improve your self esteem is constant work, but there are a few thing I have come to find help. And on days when my self esteem is lower than others or I have a big meeting or social event, I try to remember these tricks. Do you have any great self esteem boosters you employ?

 

1. The Awesomeness Portfolio. I recently discovered the Awesomeness Portfolio Technique from this article (that also lists some other great tips for confidence!). This easy project takes a couple minutes and can help you maintain your awesomeness: “Keep a list of all your accomplishments, experiences and events that made you feel competent, great at your work and confident in your abilities to shape the world. Every time you find your inner dialogue spiralling out of control, take a 3-minute break to go back to your Awesomeness Portfolio and remind yourself of how far you have come. Give your brain the evidence it needs to develop long-term confidence!”

 

2. Speak with purpose. Somewhere along the way, a lot of women learned that speaking up was not something women should be doing, and this is reflected in how we carryout conversations. As Tina Fey has said, “Speak in statements instead of apologetic questions. No one wants to go to a doctor who says, “I’m going to be your surgeon? I’m here to talk to you about your procedure? I was first in my class at Johns Hopkins, so?” Make statements, with your actions and your voice.” 

 

3. Power of the power pose & posture. Stand tall and proud. You got up today, right? Be proud of that simple accomplishment of leaving your cozy bed! Good, straight posture can mentally boost your attitude as well as passively command respect. You physically take up more space, and you should, you deserve to take up all your personal space. Another fascinating and fun trick is the Power Pose. Take a moment in front of your mirror or in the bathroom stall before a big meeting to stand like Wonder Woman for two minutes and let the that pose empower you. Really! Its fairly known that people make judgements based on nonverbal cues like posture, but what is more interesting and helpful to know that these nonverbal cues can actually change how you think and feel about yourself via cortisol (the stress hormone) and testosterone. Check out social psychologist and Harvard associate professor Amy Cuddy’s 2012 TED Talk on this fascinating study.   

 

4. Stop playing the comparison game. Don’t waste any precious time worrying about what other people think or how you compare to them. Most of the time they are thinking about themselves anyway. They definitely won’t be running that silly sentence you regretted saying over and over in their head, so why should you! “It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” Oprah Winfrey

 

5. You are amazing. As simple as that. There is only one you who has had your experiences and journeys. Think back on what you have already accomplished, what you may have overcome, or how good your hair looks today even though you just rolled out of bed. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

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Body Talk

August 6, 2015

It ain’t about the ass, it’s about the brain.Body Talk // Lena Dunham

We all know that regular exercise is an important part of living a healthy life, though it can get overwhelming being bombarded by the media to get that beach body, cleanse for a flat belly, and more recently how to get a revenge body. While all of these reasons may be motivation for some, generally, forming a habit such as exercise needs to go deeper than the superficial. Enter Lena Dunham, who has started to change the conversation with the use of a paparazzi photo.

 

 

Not usually one to post a paparazzi shot but this fills me with pride. Basically my whole life I have hated running and run like a wounded baby Pterodactyl. It was embarrassing and honestly I did not trust myself to escape a burning building or even move briskly towards a buffet. @jennikonner is directing the season finale of Girls and decided that as Hannah evolved so would her run, so she got me a training session with Matt Wilpers from Mile High Run Club. Within an hour I had a different relationship to this formerly torturous activity. I felt strong, swift and proud. I’m not about to embrace that triathlon life but it’s a true joy to continue getting more connected to my body and its powers. (Extra motivation provided by @manrepeller for @outdoorvoices.) #moveforyourmind

A photo posted by Lena Dunham (@lenadunham) on

 

As she says in her caption “I felt strong, swift and proud. I’m not about to embrace that triathlon life but it’s a true joy to continue getting more connected to my body and its powers”. It is refreshing for someone, especially a celebrity in the spotlight, to not focus on the perfect body, but a body that already is capable of so much. In another Instagram post, Lena spoke more about her #moveforyourmind mantra, saying:

Promised myself I would not let exercise be the first thing to go by the wayside when I got busy with Girls Season 5 and here is why: it has helped with my anxiety in ways I never dreamed possible. To those struggling with anxiety, OCD, depression: I know it’s mad annoying when people tell you to exercise, and it took me about 16 medicated years to listen. I’m glad I did. It ain’t about the ass, it’s about the brain.

Again, leave it to Lena to bring up topics such as mental health in a way that is totally approachable and gives light to the fact that exercise has benefits way beyond that beach body. It is a great reminder to stop focusing on the perfect body and start focusing on the whole body.

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Inspiration // Coffee Cup Art by Josh Hara

August 3, 2015

Inspiration // Coffee Cup Art by Josh HaraWe relish that first sip of coffee in the morning, warming up our soul, and awakening our senses to the day ahead. Taking that coveted cup of coffee one step further, artist and coffee lover Josh Hara illustrates his love & humor on his empty coffee cups and shares them with the world on his Instagram account. We can’t get enough of his clever coffee cup cartoons and love seeing what he’s going to post next. Here are some of our favorites, perfect to pair with your Monday morning coffee!

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Summer Staycation

July 30, 2015

summer staycationYou cannot go on Instagram right now without seeing someone’s amazing pictures of some far off amazing land that they traveled to for their amazing summer vacation. While while it is definitely necessary to take a break and actually use your vacation days, it doesn’t mean you have to travel halfway across the globe. A summer staycation can be the perfect antidote for wanderlust when you can’t get away. I know for me, the summer seems to be flying, so all the more reason to slow down and soak it up. Here are some ways to plan a staycation this summer, wherever you may be living.

 

Sleep in – Allow yourself to turn off all alarms and sleep in until you naturally wake up. It is amazing what a little extra sleep can do for getting into vacation mode!

Take time off – Take some days off from work if you can and create an out-of-the-office message for your emails to really to the time off to unplug.

Play tourist – Take advantage of your area’s attraction that you may normally skip as a ‘local’. Hit up a museum, a new hike, a sports event, or just let yourself wander around a new part of town with now agenda.

Take a nap – In a hammock, on the beach, or on the couch, an afternoon nap can be the ultimate luxury!

Go to a new restaurant – Finally check out that new restaurant and indulge in the new atmosphere and new foods and take your time. No need to rush on staycation!

Have an outdoor movie night – Hang up a white sheet and find a projector to borrow to enjoy a movie under the stars, If you can’t find a projector, a lot of cities have movies in the parks during the summer, so do a quick search to see whats playing around you!

Read – In the middle of the afternoon, put your feet up and grab a book or magazine and let yourself forget time for a few hours.

Have a BBQ our outdoor party – Throw a party that your 12 year old self would love, get water balloons, squirt guns, a piñata, popsicles… the list goes on. Make it a party where playing is the focus (not what happened on True Detective last week).

Go to the beach or pool – Go during the week when it’s not as crowded, pack a picnic, and stay until you are pruned from the water and warm from the sun.

Pamper yourself – Often when getting ready for a trip, a new outfit is picked out for the destination, so why not treat yourself to the same to wear and feel great while doing any of these staycations activities. Go get that mani-pedi while you are at it!

 

What else would you add to this list?

 

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IN YOUR DREAMS // TEETH

July 9, 2015

Dream Meanings // TeethIn this recurring feature, we are going to exploring the meaning of dreams and their symbolism. Are there any symbols you would like to know about?

 

Dreams about teeth are one of the most common dreams people have. I know I have had a bunch ­and they always leave me totally weirded out! The dreams are strange and realistic, and it seems a lot of people to dream about their teeth. They can be crumbling, loose, falling out, crooked–all sorts of unpleasant variations of the theme. Curious to know what dreams about teeth mean, here are the interpretations we found. There are a few different theories, as this is a pretty prevalent dream.

 

The first one that stood out to me was this interpretation from Tony Crisp (author & dream analyst) that teeth can represent “your power in life, i.e. your “bite”. They are your ability to ‘chew’ over things, meaning to consider and think about them and to get a taste or try to experience what you are considering. The loss or lack of teeth may be felt as the sense of not being able to get what one deeply wants, and so is experienced as a sort of death, or a loss of self in some degree. Teeth can depict words we say or swallow – perhaps things we wish had not come out of our mouth. One of the biggest associations for many of us is how our teeth depict our social appearance – how others see us.”

 

Since teeth play an important role in appearance, the dreams are highlighting anxiety and low self esteem about how you look. In the same vein, it is linked to fears of growing old and unattractive. Surprisingly, women going through menopause have been known to report frequent dreams about teeth. Another theory is that teeth dreams are more about fear of embarrassing oneself or making a fool of oneself. Maybe something is worrying you currently or you have anxiety about an upcoming event.

 

If you have had a recent teeth or tooth themed dream, take a moment to reflect and see if you can figure out what may be causing it, something that maybe deserves a bit of attention to relieve anxiety. Or perhaps take a moment to look in the mirror and remind yourself how beautiful and healthy you are. I read something recently that stuck with me about low self esteem related to your looks, when you look at yourself in the mirror imagine you are looking at your friend ­try to see yourself as others see you. Don’t be so critical, you wouldn’t be to your best friend!

Summer of Rock n Roll

July 8, 2015

Summer of Rock n Roll Summer is synonymous with music festivals and have been around long before Coachella claimed the bohemian style for its own. In the summer of 1978, these photos of teens at a Rolling Stones Concert were taken by Joseph Szabo. He captured these young people and their energy so well, you can almost hear the Stones in the background, smell the smoke and sweat, and see them swaying. There is a whole book dedicated to these incredible black & white shots from that captures so perfectly a summer of rock n roll. Enjoy some of our favorite shots below!

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5 ways to stop procrastinating

June 24, 2015

29a03aa1e7d89b6327ad322225da1b91I admit it it, I am a serious procrastinator. I tell my self it is all part of the creative process, but in reality I know it is just a bad habit. As summer is in full swing, there seems to be so many more activities, plans, and fun to be had–all of which are even more reason to procrastinate. But as the to-dos begin to be pushed aside in favor of sunshine, I have had to take a serious look at how to be more productive so work does not start to pile up. Here are some ways that I have found help me to limit my procrastination and get things done, so when adventure calls, I am ready to go! Do you have any go-to productivity tips?

 

Touch it once – This is a favorite mantra of mine as mentioned before. The idea is that you touch something once, so you receive an email, read it and respond. No rereading it later, drafting the email and letting it sit around taking up mental space. This can be pretty powerful when taken into every area of your life (here’s looking at you, laundry!)

 

Do what you don’t want to first – When looking at your to-do lists for the day, is there one task that you are dreading? Do it. By getting it off your list you will not only feel more accomplished for having done it, but it will also cease to take up the mental space and that sense of nagging will be gone, letting yourself focus on the next to-do!

 

4 o’clock fire drill – I wish I could remember where I read this one! The idea is that at 4pm, take a look at what is left on your to-do list, and if there were a fire drill, what would be the absolute necessary items you need to get done? If they aren’t that dire, they can wait until the next day! This can be hard as we live in an age where constant communication can put more pressure on our schedules, but in reality, most things can wait a day or two if necessary!

 

Break up your work – By breaking up you work into productivity ‘blocks’, you are more likely to really stick with it for that hour or two. During that chunk of time, close your internet browser, hide your phone, and do what ever else you need to have an uninterrupted period of time to crank out work. Once that time passes, reward yourself by stepping away for a walk, get a coffee, and recharge for the next productive block!

 

Make your procrastination count – If you are constantly struggling with procrastination, it might be something to take a closer look at. Are you burnt out, working too many hours, or not doing what you love? Taking a step back from work and indulging in some procrastination may be what you need, but make it count! Get off facebook and go for a hike, talk with a friend, or take a half day off to go see a movie. Do something that will help you see things from another perspective and inspire you, and leave you ready to refocus on your work.

 

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Summertime

June 15, 2015

SurfacingIt is not officially the first day of summer until this weekend, but I couldn’t wait because let’s be honest, summer started to day after Memorial Day. I love everything about summer; the long days in the sun, the abundance of produce, and the sense of leisure that summer is all about. This roundup of what I am looking forward to this summer was originally inspired by this blog post. I love being able to look back at these lists and see what my mood/thoughts/wants were (here is spring/winter/fall if you’d like to see!)14264606458_fea829b359_bEating / every kind of berry, smoothie bowls
Drinking / rosé (as you do in the summer)
Practicing / SUP yoga, my new favorite thing
Mastering / the perfect fish taco (important stuff!)
Learning / to let things go that I can’t control
Trying / stay in better touch with friends
Playing / outside, anything and everything!
Finishing / a major purging/cleaning of my closet (phew!)
Reading / The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, the title says it all!
Remembering / to take a breath before reacting
Wearing / denim cutoffs, summer dresses, and flip flops
Cooking / fried rice – easiest one bowl meal
Working / on a new business idea (too early to spill!)
Traveling / anywhere/everywhere within Colorado, so many great weekend escapes nearby!
Wanting / to go camping (see above)

What are you looking forward to this summer?

 

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5 Ways to Rev Up your Morning Routine

May 18, 2015

c21b19984f083ac7d0c1caaee6d0d469I have written before about how I am struggling to become a morning person. All the coffee in the world is still sometimes not enough for me to wake up, spring out of bed, and greet the world bright eyed and bushy-tailed. While I am practicing the general rules we all have heard before (eat, move, don’t hit snooze), there are some specific ways that I have tweaked my morning routine that have helped to energize me enough to move quickly beyond the morning zombie phase. What are some ways you have found help you be energized for the day?

 

Drink warm water with lemon – There are so many benefits from drinking warm water with lemon upon waking, it is hard to ignore this easy action to add into your morning. Beyond the health benefits, I find that the lemon water warms me up, helping to ease the transition from my cozy bed to walking upright. Also, just taking the time for this mini ritual is comforting before the busyness of the day sets in.

 

Set an intention – I give myself a couple minutes laying in bed before even picking up my phone or hurriedly getting out of bed to set an intention for the day. It doesn’t need to be anything elaborate, it can be as simple as checking off some to-dos that get you closer to a goal, working on positivity, or taking some time in the day for creativity or play. Whatever it may be, setting an intention can help energize you to get the day started!

 

Sleep – Obviously getting quality sleep will affect how you feel when you wake up. By now I have figured out the magic number of hours of sleep I need to feel rested. I am quite adamant to sticking to it, even if that means cutting off that Netflix binge prematurely! Listening to your body and figuring out your ideal amount of shuteye will help not only with your mornings, but also allow your body to reap all of the benefits from a good night’s sleep.

 

Get outside – While exercising first thing may work for a lot of people, no mater how I try, it is just not for me. This doesn’t mean that I skimp on the getting outside part of my morning. Whether it is walking the dog or eating breakfast outside, the fresh air helps the wake up the senses. And even if it means walking around the block with an umbrella in the pouring rain, being outside helps to ground me before diving into a computer-driven day.

 

Connect – Talk to someone! Whether it is your significant other, roommate, or texting to your sister, making the time for a few minutes of conversation with someone can help start the day on a positive note, feeling connected to world (especially if you work from home or have a demanding day!). It is so easy to get caught up in social media, emails, and the internet telling you what you must know this AM, but taking the time to talk to a real person can help you ease into the day feeling good about those important relationships that may get pushed to the bottom of the to-do list.

 

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Spring things

April 14, 2015

springIt has been officially spring for a few weeks now, so I figured I would follow the seasonal tradition of what I am looking forward to for spring that was originally inspired by this blog post. (You can read about winter and fall too if you’d like!). After living in Los Angeles for over 6 years and not having a ‘real’ spring, coming to Colorado that has a full 4 seasons has made me appreciate these transitions once again. I have already declared my love for the feeling of a fresh start that comes with spring, but here are a few more things I am looking forward to.

spring flowersEating / anything grilled – salmon, tons of veggies, and mango (try it, it is so good!)
Drinking / pamplemousse LaCroix, too much coffee
Practicing / speaking in front of large groups of people (namely those in yoga classes!)
Mastering / working smarter, not harder (not sure where I heard that, but love it!)
Learning / handstand – so close!
Trying / to be kinder on myself
Playing / frisbee, now that the weather is great for running around barefoot in the grass!
Finishing / taxes, woo
Reading / Girl in a Band by Kim Gordon, an honest memoir you don’t have to be a fan to appreciate
Remembering / to take a breath before reacting
Wearing / hole-y jeans, chambray shirts, and vans
Cooking / anything that can be put in a taco -fish tacos, sweet potato and black bean tacos
Working / Not as much, and it feels good!
Traveling / to Palm Springs for a dear friends wedding and then to New England for family time
Wanting / to start taking a pottery class

 

What are you looking forward to this spring?

 

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